One thing that I am finding to be really difficult and interesting about dating is clashing viewpoints. I am not the average girl (it should be woman but girl sounds more catchy haha) in that I'm very liberal and not christian. That has proven to be quite a taxing challenge for me in the dating world. A lot of the guys I am meeting are either racist or against gays or really religious. The thing that started to get to me is what if you really like someone but their beliefs make you want to scream? Or what if they are fine on almost all of your beliefs except one? Does that mean they aren't compatible with you? I dunno, see I went out with a guy recently who I agreed with pretty much 100% until he said one thing that really turned me off. Thing is its about something that he has yet to experience... could he really know what he would do in said situation? Its a mystery I suppose. But then that got me thinking about all the other guys I dated who I thought shared the same beliefs with me and how they lied to me and told me later on it was so my feelings weren't hurt. Well I don't give a shit bluntly. If you don't agree with me and I am a pretty strong person in my beliefs, and you think you can argue with me better/change me the longer we date then you got another thing coming. I prefer to be outright in what is going on, what I believe in, etc etc, and if they don't like it then not a big deal... then it just won't work out... or could it? I dunno I have never successfully dated someone with differing opinions than me. I imagine that as long as the two aren't hard headed its fine but you never know! I mean I'm pretty set on my beliefs and that is that everyone is who they are, I don't judge anyone for their beliefs, no one is wrong except hateful people who "know" they are right. Its kind of like enlightenment... I think that everyone has a right to beleive what they want and there are (almost) always good arguments on every side but at the same time I am firmly a believer in people can be who they want to be, whether a guy who wants to be a woman, a homosexual, a nudist, buddhist, muslim, etc. Plus who wants to live in a boring world where everyone is the same? But now my question is where do you draw the line for dating? When it becomes offensive? But what really is offensive? Can it be an immediate offense and as long as they are not crazy crazy about it its fine? or does it have to be ongoing before you decide this person isn't for you. Also how similar or disimilar should interests be? Hahaha do you date someone with similar interests or someone with completely opposing? I guess it depends on the person really. I mean I don't want to date my twin cause then that'd be boring but at the same time I don't want to be with someone I can't relate to at all.
As you can tell i'm a tad philosophical today and I dunno why. I think I'm having weird thoughts about dating in general and stuff. I can't decide if its cause all the guys out here are jerks and everyone that I have met I'm just not compatible with (exception being maybe last night and a few weeks ago) or if it is that I have been too picky. I think this calls for some religious intervention, circle style! :D I think I need to do another mending a broken heart spell... cause lets face it even though i put on the tough show and all... I'm still hurting from what has been done to me. I mean its a shocker I trust any guy at all (I'm actually wondering if I can even do that) I question what everone says and I overanalyze it thinking they are going to lie but I really shouldn't let all of my rotten apples spoil the bunch, you know? I can't decide what my brain is trying to tell me. I know there is a message there but it is failing to see it. All I have is hope that one day I will know who I am supposed to be with and I know I will love him and have children with him and let my children decide their own paths. I just am ready to settle... I'm tired of dating, its emotionally, mentally, and physically exhausting. I won't settle for anyone though (see previous post) but I do want to find that one person to grow old with and have children with. Quote picture of the day:
Pretty much sums up what I have been feeling. Well I hope someone really catches my attention and shows me that they won't hurt me. Cause I am afraid of being hurt, but for the right person I will overcome that fear again. :)
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